What the hell has happened to our society? It’s no secret that I work retail, but some of you may not know that I manage a women’s clothing store. (Insert Al Bundy joke here.) The women I see in my store on a daily basis will yell and curse at me over a $3.99 return. They have a flagrant disrespect for me and my store because I am a man. That’s not a joke, or speculation. I’ve had several of them tell my staff and me things of that nature several times.
Never in my life have I ever chewed someone out for following their store’s policies. Never have I ever even grumbled when an acceptable explanation was given for an issue I had. This cut-throat attitude has got to stop. And surprisingly, it’s not one particular demographic either. Rich women. Poor women. White women. Black women. Young women. Old women. Apparently, being a complete jerk acknowledges no stereotype or boundaries.
These “customers” will enter my store and, as per policy, I will be in the front third of the store and I will say hello and welcome them. They literally look straight at me and then look away. No response. No smiles. Nothing. This is absolutely infuriating to me. I know it’s my job and you don’t have time to have a conversation with the plebeians, but all I’m asking for is a sincere greeting. Is that too much to ask?
Society is majorly screwed up. I know it’s not just women who are like this, but I am limited in who I deal with so they’re the ones who get picked on. Imagine: the women who can’t say hello to someone are raising or have raised children. Do you think those kids are going to have any respect whatsoever for the service industry? I know it’s not a glamorous profession, but without me, you couldn’t buy you cheap plus size apparel; or you’d at least have to try harder.
People need to start truly living by the Golden Rule again. It seemed to work great in the early days of our country but now it’s all about selfishness and entitlement. I don’t give a shit who you are. If you come in my store, you need me. At a restaurant you need your server. People in the service industries do jobs that not everyone wants to do. Unlike the medical profession, I am not required by law to provide service to you. Treat me with courtesy and a modicum of respect and we’ll be fine.
Please read this blog and really think about how you treat people in the stores you shop in or the restaurants where you take your family to eat. We do this to make a living. I feel that the fact that I’m working and not sponging off of the government should at least grant me some respect. The fact that I’m paying my mortgage with the money you spend so you can look nice on Easter Sunday doesn’t mean anything to you, but I guaran-damn-tee it means a lot to me and anyone else who is my shoes.
Be aware of how you treat people. Be conscious of how your children see you around people and the things that you are unintentionally teaching them. In the words of Gandhi, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” That’s all well and good. I much prefer the more contemporary, “Wheaton’s Law.”